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The 3 Needs

Ever since studying HR in NUS about 7 years ago, i have been hooked on a theory (Henry Murray). It actually states that most human motivation can be defined according to 3 main needs. These are namely:
  1. The need for Achievement (nAch): the need to accomplish tasks and do things
  2. The need for Affiliation (nAff): the need to interact and be part of a group
  3. The need for Power (nPow): the need to influence or impact people and to be in control
Together with other traits of introversion and extroversion, these desires would then display themselves in various forms.

In my shortsightedness or desire to simplify things, i failed to realize that there are actually exists much more than just those three. I started to think about it and then coined a new motivation...i'll call it nRlx, or rather, the need to RELAX.

I felt i did not have enough of that so basically i was a stressed up wreck the most of the time. Anyway, afterawhile, i thought that hey, what about the OPPOSITE of each motivation...i mean won't that be something as well? So here come the opposites:
  1. Need for Achievement: Need for Relaxation
  2. Need for Affiliation: Need for Solitude
  3. Need for Power: Need for Letting Go
So basically i thought i had it all and i was brilliant etc. thats when i went to google to research this a bit more and realized...wow, there are actually 27 needs that Henry Murray came up with. Without going into any more detail as i am pondering on it myself, here they are:

Abasement

To surrender and accept punishment

Achievement

To overcome obstacles and succeed

Acquisition

To obtain possessions

Affiliation

To make associations and friendships

Aggression

To injure others

Autonomy

To resist others and stand strong

Blameavoidance

To avoid blame and obey the rules

Construction

To build or create

Contrariance

To be unique

Counteraction

To defend honor

Defendance

To justify actions

Deference

To follow a superior, to serve

Power

To control and lead others

Exhibition

To attract attention

Exposition

To provide information, educate

Harmavoidance

To avoid pain

Infavoidance

To avoid failure, shame, or to conceal a weakness

Nurturance

To protect the helpless

Order

To arrange, organize, and be precise

Play

To relieve tension, have fun, or relax

Recognition

To gain approval and social status

Rejection

To exclude another

Sentience

To enjoy sensuous impressions

Sex

To form and enjoy an erotic relationship

Similance

To empathize

Succorance

To seek protection or sympathy

Understanding

To analyze and experience, to seek knowledge


I can see how my 'opposites' fit into this...will try to dwell on it..more later :)

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