Some Rant
u know the thing abt life is that the most simplest obvious answers are usually the right ones...but 99% of the time we don't take them.
i tink its a fallacy of being human...contrary to wat we think, we are NOT logical beings
we are emotional beings. we invent our own logical matrices with convenient justifications for our ridiculous fancies based on our emotions. Thus some would argue we are still logical. Won't go into the whole idea of rationality as that requires an entire year in sociology :P Hope the point gets across though.
That being said, i don't think its all that bad. coz a purely stoic and logical life really sux :D
Thursday, June 21, 2007
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
First Date with a Girl
Was just giving some advice to some poor guy so i'd thought since i have typed it all out already why not post it here:
There is no need to be special, do wat u feel comfortable with and that u think she will be comfortable with...impt that both parties feel relaxed so tat they can get to know each other better as that is the point rather than place/activity.
with that said, i feel movies are not too good coz interaction/communication is gone UNLESS u plan someting AFT the movie in which case u have a common topic to talk abt. anything else i guess depends on her character so try to find out wat she's like. u can even try bouncing ideas off her and discussing to see wat shes comfortable with. i tink she'll appreciate the concern u have.
some basics are:
- don't bring her to ulu ulu places as she may not er trust u so much yet (ie beaches etc.), save those for later.
- always make sure they have proper toilet facilities as ladies are not like guys and DO need better facilities (whereas for us anywhere can la!).
- make sure stuff like proper transport back (make sure u know wat time she has to be back so u dun go so far). for me, i always make sure they get back safely (walk/bring her home). not only for 1st date but all dates. coz its UR responsibility when u ask her out, so i feel u shld
- make sure she is not hungry etc. sometimes might be too pai seh to tell u
- make sure u know wat time she has to be back if she has a curfew so she wont get into trouble.
Since im on a roll now, more tots:
- if the night is going really well and u want to over extend ur date till very late, DUN. rather send her back wanting more then use the good feelings to arrange a second date. everything done too much at one go loses its impact.
- during the date, DO NOT SELL URSELF! listen to her and really try to find out what she likes, wants etc. recent holidays she go la, wat she likes to eat la (u shld know this one already!)
FINAL:
Be yourself, be honest, if she doesn't like u then its probably better that way anyway
Was just giving some advice to some poor guy so i'd thought since i have typed it all out already why not post it here:
There is no need to be special, do wat u feel comfortable with and that u think she will be comfortable with...impt that both parties feel relaxed so tat they can get to know each other better as that is the point rather than place/activity.
with that said, i feel movies are not too good coz interaction/communication is gone UNLESS u plan someting AFT the movie in which case u have a common topic to talk abt. anything else i guess depends on her character so try to find out wat she's like. u can even try bouncing ideas off her and discussing to see wat shes comfortable with. i tink she'll appreciate the concern u have.
some basics are:
- don't bring her to ulu ulu places as she may not er trust u so much yet (ie beaches etc.), save those for later.
- always make sure they have proper toilet facilities as ladies are not like guys and DO need better facilities (whereas for us anywhere can la!).
- make sure stuff like proper transport back (make sure u know wat time she has to be back so u dun go so far). for me, i always make sure they get back safely (walk/bring her home). not only for 1st date but all dates. coz its UR responsibility when u ask her out, so i feel u shld
- make sure she is not hungry etc. sometimes might be too pai seh to tell u
- make sure u know wat time she has to be back if she has a curfew so she wont get into trouble.
Since im on a roll now, more tots:
- if the night is going really well and u want to over extend ur date till very late, DUN. rather send her back wanting more then use the good feelings to arrange a second date. everything done too much at one go loses its impact.
- during the date, DO NOT SELL URSELF! listen to her and really try to find out what she likes, wants etc. recent holidays she go la, wat she likes to eat la (u shld know this one already!)
FINAL:
Be yourself, be honest, if she doesn't like u then its probably better that way anyway
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